Emily Post

Consider these guidelines when you plan to stay over at someone's home:

• Do bring your own toiletries.
• Do offer to help the host anytime you see a chance. Volunteer to aid in specific tasks, for example, "Let me take those packages in."
• Do be adaptable: ready for anything--or for nothing.
• Do tidy up after yourself. Unless the host has household help and instructs you not to, straighten up your room and make the bed.
• Do appear to enjoy yourself.
• Do ensure your host has some alone time.
• Do host your guests for a preplanned dinner or outing if your stay is for three days or more.
• Do have a supply of portable snacks if you've brought your children.
• Do treat any household help courteously.

• Don't make other plans without letting your host know.
• Don't ask to bring your pet.
• Don't delay returning a borrowed item.
• Don't accept an invitation before checking with your host. If other friends in the area invite you over for drinks or dinner, never accept before discussing the matter with those with whom you're staying.
• Don't answer your hosts' telephone without asking.
• Don't use more than your share of hot water. Keep showers short and use only the towels specifically designated for you.
• Don't make the first move to go to bed. You can hint that you're tired, but the custom is to wait for the host to give the signal--except when your hosts are family or close friends who won't mind if you retire early or stay up late.
• Don't leave without making sure you have all your belongings.